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For Our Kids's avatar

Children can be so profound when we just take the time to slow down with them and notice things. Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

Code and Crayons's avatar

So true.When we slow down enough to really notice, they show us so much more than we expect. It’s easy to miss if we’re always rushing.

Dr. Bob’s IT DEPENDS's avatar

In search of connection today’s parents steal discovery from their children. The hardest thing to do when raising children is nothing. That is a gift worth giving.

Code and Crayons's avatar

Sometimes, yes.

Holding back can be harder than doing something.

Dr. Bob’s IT DEPENDS's avatar

You are a great Mom or you wouldn’t be so concerned

it’s the progression of letting go that counts, not all at once. You are progressing well

Dr. Bob’s IT DEPENDS's avatar

Of course not all parents do but the trend is over explaining as a part of overparenting. My concern is long term over explaining creates lack curiosity and independence both necessary for problem solving skills. We have a mental health crisis in 20-30 somethings due to this. You are wonderfully focused on your under 10y/o but my over 45 yrs experience have me concerned of longterm outcomes.

Code and Crayons's avatar

That is a fair concern. The point for me is not replacing one kind of over-involvement with another. It is reducing adult interference overall. Less over-explaining. Less over-directing. More room for the child to notice, interpret, and think.

Dr. Bob’s IT DEPENDS's avatar

You are great parent or you wouldn’t be so worried you were doing a good job. The mark of a good parent is letting go of the unnecessary over time. You are in it for the long haul not parent of the year. Keep it up.