So glad you resonated with it.Sometimes we step in because we feel uncomfortable, not because they need help. If the discomfort is theirs, staying out of it can actually help them grow.
I had a terrific mentor teacher who taught me to not hover while my high schoolers were working. I have to find ways to reframe that for homeschooling. All 3 of us, my husband included, can emotionally get in each other’s way often and we have to reflect and recalibrate.
This very eloquently explains why I am so passionate about us parents taking full responsibility of our children, and by that I mean - stop looking at their behavior as a problem to fix, but looking internally at ourselves - the arms in which our children are held truly determines their fate.
“Before intervening in boredom or frustration, ask whether the discomfort belongs to you or to them.” These takeaways are gold!
I learned it through books and experiences but still its difficult sometimes.
The fact that you are willing to reflect is the key! 😊
So glad you resonated with it.Sometimes we step in because we feel uncomfortable, not because they need help. If the discomfort is theirs, staying out of it can actually help them grow.
I had a terrific mentor teacher who taught me to not hover while my high schoolers were working. I have to find ways to reframe that for homeschooling. All 3 of us, my husband included, can emotionally get in each other’s way often and we have to reflect and recalibrate.
This very eloquently explains why I am so passionate about us parents taking full responsibility of our children, and by that I mean - stop looking at their behavior as a problem to fix, but looking internally at ourselves - the arms in which our children are held truly determines their fate.